Ipswich/Stowmarket: Courageous daughter reveals how sex abuser father ruined her life

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Colin Adwent and Jane Hunt
Monday, December 30, 2013
9:00 AM

Sexually abused as a child by her father Chloe Parker carried the burden alone for 10 years.

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Now, kick-boxing champion Andrew Parker, 39, is beginning a two-year jail term after Chloe finally told her mother and grandmother what he had done to her.

Displaying courage and a maturity beyond her years Chloe, of Stowmarket, waived her right to anonymity, declining to hide her identity in order to speak openly about her father’s appalling betrayal of trust.

As terrible as the sexual abuse was, the 18-year-old said the torment and emotional blackmail that she was subjected to by Parker, of Pimpernel Road, Ipswich, was equally unbearable.

“He stole my childhood, my innocence and any hope of me ever living a normal life,” she said. “He made me feel dirty, afraid, alone, and isolated from everybody else. This left me with M.E and depression, leaving me feeling even more vulnerable than ever. What made the situation even more difficult was the fact he was so highly regarded in the community after working at Bosch Lawn and Garden for 13 years and a number of local funeral companies.

Chloe Parker - aged sevenChloe Parker - aged seven

“He was also a well known kick-boxer, teaching and training in the sport as well as winning several fights and championships. It seemed impossible that anyone would believe me.

“He lied about what he did for a long time and convinced my family that I was the manipulative, nasty liar, which in reality, he was.

“However, at 17, after I found out about him committing years of adultery, I finally felt the strength to tell my grandmother, and then my mum, which he denied profusely in an attempt to blacken my name further.

“Despite this, after weeks of begging him to tell the truth and agreeing to keep what had happened within the family, he finally admitted to it. But even after confessing to the sexual abuse, he has still been able to convince some people that I’m the cruel child he tried to portray me as.

Chloe Parker aged 14Chloe Parker aged 14

“He went as far to say that he would, ‘play dirty,’ and, ‘up his game,’– it was all just a big joke to him, and he belittled everything that I did.

“Therefore, I decided to go to the police in an attempt to try and get some justice for what my ‘dad’ had done. It’s been the worst year of our lives, and it felt like this torture would never end. But with my mum, brother and my mum’s side of the family’s support, we’ve been able to stick together and push through this.

“What has happened to me will stay with me and affect me for the rest of my life, but now he has been sentenced I finally have some justice for what he did to me. I hope that my story will encourage other children to come forward if they have suffered abuse by anyone.

“You may be frightened that you won’t be believed, and you may have some people against you, but the police will always believe you and support you, and you shouldn’t have to deal with what has happened to you on your own.

“I never thought in a million years I would tell anyone, and that ‘dad’ would be sentenced, but here I am, so if I can do it, so can you.”

If you are a victim of child abuse telephone Childline on 0800 1111 or Suffolk Constabulary on 101.

13 comments

  • Chloe, you are very brave and courageous to speak out. I hope your future is brighter as a result. May others follow in your brave footsteps. X

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    Charlie

    Monday, December 30, 2013

  • I think your amazing regardless what anyone else says you truly are one of the kindest caring people I have met anyone that knows you is lucky too have u in there lives. your story is an inspiration to others going through the same letting them know, that someone will listen and not 2 give up until someone does. your such a strong person and have so much to offer each day will get easier and bring you new happy memories to cherish and hold on too. All your friends love u and will be right behind you if you ever need it. we are proud of you. don't let anyone bring you down there not worth it. xxx

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    zoe-amanda

    Monday, December 30, 2013

  • two years , please tell me the real sentence is 22 years . what"s wrong with the law today its all wrong . sentence for sex offence should start with a 10

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    Lee mundy

    Tuesday, December 31, 2013

  • Well done young lady, I hope that those who abuse others read this and realise that the next knock at the door could be the police.

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    Who E!

    Monday, December 30, 2013

  • Chloe you are extremely brave to come forward and tell your story publicly - this gives others the courage to come forward - we are always here if you need support, get in touch support@survivorsintranition.co.uk

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    SiT

    Tuesday, December 31, 2013

  • Chloe well done you were so brave, I waited till I was 50yrs old before I dared reveal the truth about my life. Every time a survivor speaks out they are helping others to have the same courage. I feel 3 sentence was far too lenient as you say you have a life sentence. These pedophiles cannot be cured. There are many support systems which I found really helpful , as not everyone will understand what it's like to be a survivor. The guilt and shame is where it belongs with the abuser.xxx

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    margie

    Monday, December 30, 2013

  • Chloe what a very Brave thing to talk about I can't imagine what you have been going through but I hope now that you can help others that may be going though or have gone though such awful times. Your living proof that victims will be listened too and there is light at the end of the tunnel bless you xx

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    Ali

    Monday, December 30, 2013

  • Well done you for speaking out.. as a survivor of sexual abuse i truly know how scared you must have been,that is why we must keep educating our children explain that these pathetic abusers come in all shapes,sizes,from all backgrounds, and of all ages. Please do not let this pathetic dirty minded man tarnish the rest of your life.I have got a half decent life now and with your courage you will to bless you xx

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    maria

    Monday, December 30, 2013

  • I think your amazing regardless what anyone else says you truly are one of the kindest caring people anyone that knows you is lucky too have u in there lives. your story is an inspiration to others going through the same letting them know, that someone will listen and not 2 give up until someone does. your such a strong person and have so much to offer each day will get easier and bring you new happy memories to cherish and hold on too. All your friends love u and will be right behind you if you ever need it. we are proud of you. don't let anyone bring you down there not worth it. xxx

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    zoe-amanda

    Monday, December 30, 2013

  • Anyone else having trouble commenting?

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    Ali hart

    Monday, December 30, 2013

  • always having trouble commenting i complain sometimes and get told off by archant.

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    TERENCE MANNING

    Monday, December 30, 2013

  • what a brave girl you are,it must have been horrific for you!!! im glad you had the courage and strength to speak out.in my opion the sentence wasnt long enough these peados take ur innocence and ur childhood,there will be people who will try and defend him by saying he didnt do it etc or its not his fault that he did it because he was a victim himself as a child,but believe me he had a choice whether to do that to you and he clearly made a conscious choice to do so...its not an illness as some believe,i hope you have a fullfilled life you brave girl x

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    fordy

    Tuesday, December 31, 2013

  • Well done Chloe, I know just how you feel, I took my "Dad" to court 7 years ago at the age 44. My "Dad" is also seen as a respectable member of the community in Ipswich. I also hope your story will help others to come forward

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    preep

    Monday, December 30, 2013

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