Ipswich: Family of A14 crash tragedy teen - “We miss our Sian every minute of every day”
TWO years ago her world fell apart.
For Sian Ryan’s devastated family, today marks a second year without their bubbly, bright and beautiful daughter, sister, auntie and friend. Revealing her anguish, mum Chrissie Ryan tells reporter LIZZIE PARRY how her daughter’s smile still surrounds her.
TWO years ago her world fell apart.
Life has carried on but for Chrissie Ryan time stands still.
Her youngest child, Sian was killed after the car she was travelling in span out of control and crashed off the A14 at Nacton, colliding with a road sign on August 17, 2009.
That day is ingrained in her memory, the moment she learnt her treasured teenager would never walk through the door of the family home in Alan Road, Ipswich again.
Two years on and the pain is still etched on the face of Mrs Ryan as she recalls her “bright, bubbly and beautiful” daughter.
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Tomorrow, Sian should have been preparing to pick up her A-level results at Copleston High School, surrounded by her friends.
But there will be one results paper missing.
“All of Sian’s friends are waiting to find out if they have made it into uni,” said Mrs Ryan. “It should be Sian’s turn.
“She wanted to be a criminologist and had talked about going to Essex or Leicester. She did some work experience with a PE teacher, she loved sport but wanted to do something different each day.
“She was really passionate about it. She would have been great.”
Mrs Ryan, her husband Mike and their children Darren, Hayley, Michael and Annalise Ryan and Zoe and Keely Walker will today visit her grave and the crash site to lay flowers together.
But Mrs Ryan said only now, two years on, can she even consider choosing a headstone to mark the grave of her “shining star”.
“I am half way there,” she said. “We are going to use the words Michael (Sian’s brother) wrote after Sian’s death - ‘she was the prettiest flower in the garden, the most beautiful song you will ever hear’.”
She added: “I think it has been the finality of it all that has made it so hard to come to terms with.
“I still can’t sleep at night and of course things just keep coming up, birthdays and other family events, it just makes it harder.
“Two years on and her smiles are still with me. Her fun still fills the house, her sense of humour and the way she made everyone feel special about themselves.
“We always talk about her and the house is full of pictures of her.
“She had an amazing ability to lift anyone’s mood, you couldn’t be down in her company, she made us all laugh.
“We miss her every minute of every day.”
Last June a jury at Ipswich Crown Court found Perri Daniel, now 21, of Upper Cavendish Street, and Gavin Sahota, now 20, of Stewart Young Grove, Kesgrave, guilty of causing Sian’s death by dangerous driving.
Daniel had been a close family friend for ten years and Sahota had been dating Sian.
They had all been travelling back from a day out in Felixstowe when tragedy struck. Daniel weaved across the A14 in her Citreon Saxo, with Sian in the passenger seat. Sahota then dangerously undertook the car in his Audi A3, causing the vehicles to collide.
The pair, who had just seven months’ driving experience between them, were each sentenced to three years in a young offenders’ institution.
But just 11 months later, Mrs Ryan said Daniel is now out of prison on licence, free to start building her life again.
“She has to be back by about 9pm each night, but she is getting on with life,” she said. “But Sian can’t.
“Gavin has chosen to serve his time, he has told his cousin he won’t come out early. We respect him for that. He is taking his punishment.
“If Perri had shown some remorse, if she had stood in court and admitted she had made a mistake, I might have been able to find it in my heart to forgive her.
“But I can’t forgive what she has put us all through.”
Since Sian’s death, The Sian Ryan Memorial Fund has raised about �13,000 to help young sports stars achieve their goals. It also supports the East Anglia’s Children’s Hospice.
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My darling Sian it’s two years today,
But if feels like only yesterday.
We miss your smile and sense of fun,
You were an inspiration to everyone.
We talk about you day and night,
Because you were so sunny and bright.
We miss you loads, your jokes, your pranks,
But most of all we give our thanks.
That you were in our lives, though your time was so short,
But the pleasure and love that to all of us bought,
Is priceless, what more can I say,
Only that your with us each and every day.